Self-esteem affirmations are a brilliant strategy for building self-esteem. They will help you become a positive, confident and independent person. There is little doubt that positive affirmations have the power to change your habitual thinking patterns and your internal dialogues that directly affects your self-esteem. So why aren't more people using this simple strategy for enhancing their self worth? Sadly, most people just aren't aware of how their own positive affirmations can be used to get very impressive, and in some cases, life changing results.
Fortunately, there is a simple set of principles which you can use to construct positive affirmations which are not only easy to follow but also extremely effective.
1. Define Your Standards
Before you start writing your self esteem affirmations, you must define your standard for creating a high self-esteem. For example, what is your idea of someone who has high self-esteem? Can you think of a certain person…alive or dead? If so, you can begin to define the standards upon which you're going to build your positive affirmations by observing the actions of a confident person with high self-esteem. This is logical if you think about it. What is the point in telling your brain that you are going to become more confident if your brain does not know what being confident is?
Your subconscious mind (which is what you want to influence with your self-esteem affirmations) responds to directions. You need to be as specific as possible and the best way to do that is by coming up with definite actions which represent high self-esteem. It can be something like the courage to speak to strangers, to the opposite sex, or the courage to negotiate. Just make sure that you come up with a list of actions that you believe to be typical of a confident person.
2. The Formula of Positive Affirmations
Your self-esteem affirmations must follow four basic principles: they need to be in the present tense; affirmative in nature (in other words, avoid statements like: not, don’t, won’t, can’t, and no); they must be in the first person; they need to be action driven (using the actions you collected in step one). For example:
“I am assertive and persuasive in my business negotiations.”
“I approach women and strangers in a confident, friendly manner and engage them in conversations.”
“I am an expert at closing sales.”
“I am disciplined and dedicated in following my exercise program.”
Notice that all of these self esteem affirmations have four things in common:
They are all in the present tense
They are all affirmative
They are all in the first person
They all involve a specific action
Once you have your positive affirmations written according to these guidelines, there is just one final thing left to do.
3. Rehearse Your Affirmations
Using self-esteem affirmations is an on-going process which you must do on a continuous and consistent basis. Ideally, you should say your affirmations out loud in the morning and in the evening. This is important because you are actually training your mind, which is no different than training your body. Both have to be done on a consistent basis and if you start to slack off, your results are likely to undo themselves so it is important to practice your self-esteem affirmations every day. If you get bored with them there is a simple solution. Go and write new ones. Make it a life long commitment and the results will astound you. Confidence and a high self-esteem will become a natural part of your beliefs and your actions.
